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Healing Yourself: The Naked Truth with Joie Cheng

  Some of us go through difficult moments in our lives where we feel that the only thing left to do is count down the seconds until it is all over. We beat ourselves up along the way by having negative thoughts, forgetting to show kindness to our very own selves....

#MeTooWhatNow – Overcoming with Ed Squire

  The statistics are mindboggling. In the United States alone, there's an estimated 60 to 70 million survivors of childhood sexual abuse. In Canada, the estimate is 10 million. Ed Squire is a part of that statistic. As a survivor, the abuse destroyed the majority...

Life’s Challenges – Divorce, Death And Rebirth with Lisbeth Tanz

  How we are able to handle life’s challenges measure the strength of our character. Life has not been easy for Lisbeth Tanz, a nonfiction book ghostwriter, editor, and author coach, but she has managed to push through the many curveballs thrown in her way....

Overcoming Dysfunction with Angela W. Stillwell

  There is no such thing as a perfect family, not even an impeccable childhood. Some may argue that there are, but people from a dysfunctional family will totally differ. Every human being has a different past or childhood experience. Angela W. Stillwell, the...

Overcoming Life’s Challenges with Joy Idries

  When you are overcoming challenges and adversities in life, it’s either you finish strong or you come out weak. In the end, what you get are lessons that mold you and armor you for the next battle. These challenges, be they life-threatening or life-changing,...

Broken and Unbroken – Madeleine Black’s Story of Resilience

  It takes a lot of courage to find the path to resilience especially when you have gone through a very traumatic experience. Madeleine Black, an international speaker, author, and psychotherapist, shares her healing story when she chose to forgive the men who...

Getting Your Feng Shui On with Kim Julen

  There is energy in everything. For things to flow in your life, you need an environment that energetically supports it. For Kim Julen, founder of Finding Your Fiji, that is achieved through Feng Shui. She is a dynamic thought leader, speaker, and Feng Shui...

Improving Education with Dr. Aaron Smith

  Investments in children usually begin with education. That's why Dr. Aaron L. Smith, STEM and workplace readiness expert and best-selling author of Awakening Your STEM School, maintains his stand that education should be improved and has to be taken to the next...

Building Wealth And Bringing Value By Taking A Leap Of Faith with Carey Green

  Sometimes we have thoughts and ideas that we can't find the courage to take action on. This hinders us to reach our absolute potential to live our life to the fullest and limits how we impact people in the most beneficial way for them. Life coach and former...

Ashley Berges Living Life

  We sometimes take for granted what we have and live our life in fear of tomorrow. But if you are a person who understands life's uncertainties, you want to make the most out of every moment of your life. Mentor, life coach, psychologist and modern-day...

Makena Sage Lumina Life Coaching

  We always want to find where in this world do we really belong, where do we fit in with our passion and purpose in this world. Makena Sage, creator of Lumina Life – a global life coaching and retreat company, tells the story of how she had it all until she felt...

The Journey Of A McDonalds Girl with Jill Raff

  At the end of the day, business is all about serving your customers and being good at it. Jill Raff, CEO and Founder of The Jill Raff Group and an experienced customer experience strategist, shares her journey and passion for customer service as she lets us in...

I was at the post office the other day and as usual there was a steady stream of people coming and going. I am always a courteous gentleman so I was holding the door open for the folks entering or leaving. I noticed some people responded with a thank you and some were in their own world oblivious to it being a human being holding the door open or automatic door opener! My first reaction was to feel a little sadden to how we have become an automatic society. How is it that we have become so automatic? An interesting question I think! My first thoughts were that it pertained to our living this very busy lifestyle, living in the new age of technology, or are we so into our own worlds that we forget about others? One of the things I’ve observed over the course of time is the reaction I get by holding doors open. They can range over any course of emotion from joy to contempt. I decided at some point in my life that it was the right thing to do. For me, it is a sign of respect for my fellow man. I’m a non-discriminatory door holder and could give a hoot about your age, gender, color, or religious affiliation, as my fellow man I respect you. Some years ago in my door holding life I decided to start my own little experiment with the endeavor. What I started doing is responding to the ‘”thank you” or the lack of a response! I would hold the door open and as the person responded with thank you, I would respond back with you’re welcome and leave it at that. The lack of any response, a nod of the head or grin will elicit a “You’re Welcome” from me anyway. I hope you get the picture as it plays a pivotal role in making my point. People responded in many different ways some with “I’m sorry I wasn’t paying attention” to “screw you who do you think you are!” The greatest insight I have gained from this experiment is that if I choose to let the negatives influence my well being then I have given my purpose and joy away. I hold doors open not because of politeness or any ulterior motives. I hold doors because for me, it is the right thing to do and I feel better serving others. It about respect and caring for others, it’s what motivates me and it matters to me in a small way to serve others in this capacity. We live in this automatic world of expecting others to take care of the important issues so we can have our own personal “me” time. We don’t bother to get involved with this process which allows others to dictate and decide what we should and can get involved in and then we complain about the results. We come up with a million reasons about how it should have been done yet we did nothing to determine the outcome of these issues. We have lost of sense of individualism and self-determination; I call it the erosion of our self-image and expectations. We have succumbed and capitulated to an easy, let someone else worry about it, or I got mine so screw you mentality. The next time you want to see what it is about holding doors open I suggest you try it and experience the responses that you get. Don’t let it kill your spirit but use it as a gauge to view how others view themselves. It’s eye opening and rewarding and I pray that you get more “thank you” then “screw you” results.